Hello friends! What did you think about last week’s li’l love letter? This one is the second love letter in a series of three blog posts on worthiness: doing, having, and being enough.
The reason for this love fest?
You should know that you’re good enough just the way you are. You’re an amazing human being with great talents and so much to offer to the world. What you have to offer is enough. You are enough. So, let’s celebrate.
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From time to time (or most of the time) most of us struggle with the feeling of not having enough. We think that if only we’d have more, we’d be happier, more successful, and less stressed.
The idea of not having enough is a scarcity issue. Scarcity is rampant in a culture where people are focused on or being made aware of what’s lacking. It feels as if there’s not enough of things like safety, love, and money. As a result, we spend our time trying to figure out how much we have and don’t have and how much other people have and don’t have.
The sad part is that we can’t win this constant comparison game. Don’t compare your struggles with someone else’s outcomes. Perfection is an unattainable goal.
Our response to scarcity is to try to create abundance.
If only I’d work hard, work a lot of overtime, and keep on working even if I’m sick, I won’t lose my job.
If only I’d be the perfect homemaker, I won’t lose my husband and family.
If only my kids would get tutoring, participate in sports, and go to their music lessons, they won’t lose their chance on future success.
The problem with this kind of thinking is that - as Brené Brown has taught us - the opposite of scarcity is not abundance. The opposite of not enough is enough.
Think about this for a minute...
What if you could counteract the fear and stress and general uneasiness by simply acknowledging you have enough? Can you switch your mindset from scarcity to enough?
You have all you need.
The things you have, the people you know, they are enough. But most of all, YOU have enough. You have so many talents. Your strengths outweigh your weaknesses. You have all it takes to be successful, according to your definition of success.
You might not know you have all it takes. But you do. You’re strong enough to weather any storm. Afterwards you might think that you’ve changed. But you didn’t change. You discovered parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed before. You had it in you all along, you just didn’t know you had it. You became more of yourself.
That’s my wish for you: that you become more of yourself, your amazing, talented self.
Hi there! I’m Wendy, perfectionism coach and host of the #perfectionistproblems community for recovering perfectionists. I’m insanely passionate about helping you overcome your perfectionism, so that you can stop caring so much about what other people think and finally take on those dream projects that you've been putting off for so long.