Hi friends, Wendy here! Welcome to the #perfectionistproblems interview series. My mission with The Gratefulist is to help creatives let go of their perfectionism and embrace their perfectly imperfect selves.
I’ve personally learned so much from other people's perfectionist stories and that’s why I’m sharing these stories in a weekly interview series on the blog, in the hope of helping you deal with your perfectionism. Reading about personal experiences is a powerful thing and I believe there’s so much you can learn from these stories and insights.
Today, I’m very grateful to share SaRatta Reeves from expressionsbracelets.com ‘s perfectionist story. Over to you SaRatta!
In what way does perfectionism show up in your life?
Perfectionism manifests itself in my over-controlling the creating of my products. Expression Bracelets is growing rapidly and I need to release the job of shipping orders but I am afraid that if I don’t check every single order for perfection, that something crazy bad may happen! I don’t want a customer to get something that is not perfectly made and I obsess over it constantly.
Why do you think perfectionism is such a dream killer?
It can paralyze a person’s growth and ability to move forward. When a person is constantly aiming for perfect, they always fall short of their vision. Waiting for the perfect time in life, the perfect moment etc, can have a person waiting indefinitely and inevitably killing dreams.
How does perfectionism affect your soul and success, both in work and life?
Sometimes I worry too much about how my business is perceived: is it the best, is it good enough, will people always want more? This at times affects the vendor shows I apply for, the retail boutiques I may want to reach out to or the connections I want to make with my business. Perfectionism causes stress and anxiety that affects you both in work and in life. You become less tolerant at times and often impatient because you want things to be perfect.
What does embracing imperfection mean to you?
This means accepting who I am, where I am and being comfortable with the flaws in my personal life as well as in my business. Accepting that there will always be room for growth and being okay with the fact the nothing is perfect. Or ever will be.
What’s the single most important thing about perfectionism that’s holding you back?
My need to control every aspect of my business. It is entirely too much for one person to manage, but I try to every day. I want every part of the business to be perfect and if someone else attempts to do it differently than I do, I quietly panic!
Tips and tricks about dealing with perfectionism? Share them!
I have created task lists that I trust certain contractors with and assigned them to do it. I try to work on empowering them to make decisions without coming to check with me first. This allows them to grow, take on more responsibility and release me of some of the need to micromanage.
Another tip is only allowing yourself a certain amount of time to work on something that you know you will obsess about. Once the time's up, you’re done, whether you like it or not. You have to submit it, ship it, publish it, or whatever you need to do and let it go!
Share a favorite quote or mantra that you use to remind yourself that who you are and what you do is good enough?
“Strive for progress, not perfection” - Unknown
WHO IS THIS PERFECTLY IMPERFECT, SOUL-CONNECTED CREATIVE?
SaRatta Reeves Murphy, a Dallas native, is a motivational speaker, small business owner and small business and speaker coach. With over 10 years of speaking experience and over 5 years as a small business owner, life has been nothing short of an adventure for SaRatta. She currently runs her small business, expressions bracelets, out of her home studio in Prosper Texas. SaRatta is a master clogger and boot wearing southern girl who loves reality tv!
Wendy, again! Phew, that was SO powerful! Thank you, SaRatta, for sharing your story so courageously. Make sure to show SaRatta some love in any of the places linked above.
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