Hi friends, Wendy here! Welcome to the #perfectionistproblems interview series. My mission with The Gratefulist is to help creatives let go of their perfectionism and embrace their perfectly imperfect selves.
I’ve personally learned so much from other people's perfectionist stories and that’s why I’m sharing these stories in a weekly interview series on the blog, in the hope of helping you deal with your perfectionism. Reading about personal experiences is a powerful thing and I believe there’s so much you can learn from these stories and insights.
Today, I’m very grateful to share Jaimie Myers from jaimieemyers.com ‘s perfectionist story. Over to you Jaimie!
In what way does perfectionism show up in your life?
Procrastination. Once I get to work on something, I just do it - I don’t tend to obsess too much or tweak and tweak and tweak and tweak until I can’t anymore. But I do put off doing things at all until I feel like I can do it perfectly. I’ve learned that if I want to get things done, I have to just start. Once I start, there’s no stopping me. Sometimes starting means physically beginning a project and other times it means that I declare (to other people) that I’m going to do something.
Why do you think perfectionism is such a dream killer?
It prevents us from getting things done. If you can’t get anything done, you can’t achieve anything. Whether it’s in the form of procrastination like me or in the form of avoiding putting what you perceive to be imperfect work into the world, perfectionism helps you avoid those big, wild, amazing dreams. They become dead before they even become alive.
How does perfectionism affect your soul and success, both in work and life?
I get really bummed out when I know that I’m letting perfectionism into my work because I know that I’m sabotaging my own success. I know that successful people don’t put off what they want to do and I know that my perfectionism lets me do that. So not only have I let perfectionism keep me away from my dreams, but now I’m sad and that seeps into every piece of life.
What does embracing imperfection mean to you?
Embracing imperfection means that I can finally be on my way - I can finally get to getting on. It means that I do more and increase my level of happiness in my life. Just the simple act of being able to set goals and actually make them happen is a huge confidence booster. Embracing my imperfections means that I’m letting love into my life - loving myself, curves and all. (Psst! Did you know that I wrote a guest post for Wendy all about self-care and confidence? You can find it right here.)
What’s the single most important thing about perfectionism that’s holding you back?
I get really scared to work on larger projects because of perfectionism. I have a tendency to want to change things months after they’re done and with larger projects, this is obviously more time-consuming and difficult. Just the thought of that process scares me so much that I procrastinate. Avoiding the larger projects definitely holds me back from growing and scaling my business. Phew! I feel like I just had a therapy session even admitting that!
Tips and tricks about dealing with perfectionism? Share them!
The first step is admitting you have a problem, am I right or am I right? If you can’t admit to yourself that perfectionism is holding you back (not helping you), it will be difficult to take the necessary steps to deal with it. Now, you’ll be able to learn to realize that it’s perfectly okay to be bad at some things and perfectly okay to be a beginner.
From a practical standpoint, making lists of things that you’ve done that were imperfect is helpful. When you realize that you’ve indeed survived imperfection, it becomes a lot easier to accept it going forward.
You can also intentionally do something that you know you won’t be perfect at - try a scrapbooking class, go to a different exercise class than usual, try something you haven’t done before. The imperfect is sure to make it into your soul if you do that!
Share a favorite quote or mantra that you use to remind yourself that who you are and what you do is good enough?
I don’t know if I have a mantra, but when I’m not feeling very good about myself, I remind myself of times when I was fake or when I tried to be too much like someone else and how unhappy that made me. It quickly brings me back to reality to realize that being myself has always made me happier than being anyone else.
Who is this perfectly imperfect, soul-connected creative?
Jaimie Myers is a social media strategist based in Madison, WI. She loves to help brands learn to become more visible and more brave on social media by sharing their stories and telling beautiful visual stories. In addition to working with clients, she offers one-on-one consultations for small businesses and solopreneurs. In her free time, Jaimie loves to be active with her husband and two kids. She can’t get enough gummy bears, Instagram Stories or cup of soup.
Wendy, again! Phew, that was SO powerful! Thank you, Jaimie, for sharing your story so courageously. Make sure to show Jaimie some love in any of the places linked above.
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