Letting go of perfectionism - a few years ago this would have petrified me. I felt I was strong BECAUSE of my perfectionism. Now I know I was strong DESPITE of my perfectionism.
Let me tell you why.
PIN THAT, YO!
As a kid I loved going to school. I was an A+ student and was praised for it. All through school and college I proudly called myself a perfectionist. Being diligent, stringent, and extremely detail-oriented, favoring quality over quantity, preferring to work alone, holding myself to high standards, and working in a structured and organized manner; those were just some of my perfectionistic tendencies. You might recognize them in yourself.
I was convinced that these habits of perfectionism got me the good school results I got. Up until I entered the workplace that is. What I found was that corporate culture appreciates speed over diligence, quantity over quality, and group work in project teams over solo work. Needless to say, I was miserable.
My perfectionism didn’t help me anymore. In fact, looking back, it had never helped me. During my college years, my fellow students only saw the perfectionist shield I had put up. It stopped me from making authentic connections and friendships. Perfectionism was the shield I used to stop people seeing what was really going on on the inside.
I quickly realized I had to let go of my perfectionism. (And I did.) Around the same time I became interested in the benefits of gratitude and I wanted to start a gratitude practice. (And I did.)
I realized I needed to make a Detour in my life. I no longer wanted to be The Perfectionist. I wanted to be The Gratefulist.
It’s been three exciting years filled with gratitude, vulnerability, connection, personal development, and growth.
Thank you Amy Oestreicher for giving me the opportunity to share my story on your site. I'm really grateful for it.