What is holding you back from doing the work to overcome your perfectionism?
Ever since launching my 1-on-1 coaching & mentoring program at the beginning of this year, I’ve been so lucky to have worked with dozens of women in helping them go from stressed-out perfectionist to recovering perfectionist.
Having a backstage pass to so many transformations in my clients’ personal lives (and working lives), has taught me a thing or two about raising your hand and saying yes to doing the scary thing.
Mindset blocks, hesitations, not feeling good enough or like you don’t have what it takes, wanting to backtrack… I’ve seen it all. And guess what? Everybody feels this way.
Feeling this way is not a sign to quit or to not invest in yourself. In fact, feeling this way is how you KNOW you’ve taken the right step. Because saying hell-to-the-no to your perfectionism is supposed to scare the hell out of you.
You’ve been carrying around your perfectionism for years. It’s been your trusted companion, your go-to survival mechanism, the devil you know. If overcoming perfectionism was easy, you’d done so already.
But trust me, you’ve got what it takes. You can do this. Find strength in the women who’ve gone through the process before you. If they can do it, so can you.
So, without further adieu, here’s what I've learned from helping my clients (brave women just like you and me!) overcome their perfectionism.
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1. Everyone is scared
Everyone. Even when they know it's right for them. Even when they're excited. Having more resources, more experience, or more time, doesn’t make you less afraid.
Feeling fear is completely normal. It isn’t a sign of you not measuring up and it also isn’t a predictor of failure. In fact, it’s a sign of courage.
2. It’s supposed to be scary
Doing something new, pushing yourself, stepping outside of your comfort zone, starting to do the work to better yourself... is terrifying.
It's totally normal to feel this way, so push through. You've already started. Reading this blog post was your first step. Now, keep going. Show up for yourself by investing in yourself.
3. There’s no “right time” to start
Stop waiting for the perfect time to start. There isn’t one!
There’s never going to be a perfect time for you to take action. There’s never going to be a perfect time for you to launch that project, write a book, or change your perfectionist habit.
The only right time is right now.
4. Taking action gets results
One tiny action step leads to taking more action, which leads to the results you’re dreaming of.
As a perfectionist, you’re all too familiar with procrastination, but the way out of perfectionism is not through waiting. It’s through taking action.
The world is waiting for you to start something. So, start.
5. It’s going to be messy
Even when there are simple steps to follow, things get messy. You get sick. Your power goes out. You embarrass yourself. You lose your perfectionism journal. You order pizza for dinner way too many times.
Going from stressed-out perfectionist to recovering perfectionist is not going to be a straight line. It’s going to be a messy, imperfect, ‘two steps forward, one step back’-kinda thing.
There's no tidy way to do something you've never done before.
6. It’s not just about letting go of perfect
Overcoming your perfectionism affects how you think about yourself, how you contribute, and how you relate to the world. Perfectionism isn’t just what you do sometimes, it’s very much who you are.
In order to change your perfectionist habit, you will have to change part of you. This feels big, because it is big. Treat it with respect and get the support you need.
7. You’re far more capable than you think
It can be really hard to see yourself in a different way or to see a different future for yourself. I've never had a client who wasn't capable of so much more than they were doing. Perfectionism makes you blind to a lot of your own worth, strength, and talents.
Believe me: there may be a gap between where you are and where you want to go, but that gap isn’t nearly as big as you think.
Are you stuck in perfectionism and need little help letting go of the perfectionist tendencies that are holding you back? Then make sure to download your FREE copy of my perfectionism-busting workbook. Just click that pretty yellow button below.
Hi there! I’m Wendy, perfectionism coach and host of the #perfectionistproblems community for recovering perfectionists. I’m insanely passionate about helping you overcome your perfectionism, so that you can stop caring so much about what other people think and finally take on those dream projects that you've been putting off for so long.