4 sure-fire ways to instantly snap out of perfectionism

4 sure-fire ways to instantly snap out of perfectionism

What do you do when you’re stuck in a moment of perfectionism?

We all have these moments where we find ourselves double or triple spell-checking the most basic email, obsessively going over someone else’s work to make sure every little detail is just right, or snapping at our significant other for wearing a shirt that’s just plain WRONG (aka not picture perfect).

Those simple, everyday moments where everything was going alright and then suddenly, BOOM!, we’re caught up in perfectionism.

For most of us, perfectionism has been a long-time companion. A shadow that’s been following us for years. And so, overcoming the coping mechanism that is perfectionism is going to be a long-term effort.

But that doesn’t mean there isn’t anything you can do, in the moment, when you’re stuck in perfectionism to help you snap out of it.

I’ve come up with 4 sure-fire ways to instantly snap you out of perfectionism. Let's dive in!

What is perfectionism and why is perfectionism a coping mechanism?

What is perfectionism and why is perfectionism a coping mechanism?

Do you believe our culture’s version of what being a perfectionist looks like?

Here’s why I ask:

Perfectionism is nothing like how it’s portrayed in our culture and on tv. I mean, NOTHING.

The Monica Geller’s (remember Friends?) and April Kepner’s (Grey’s Anatomy, anyone?) of the television world are somewhat annoying and anal-retentive, but they get the job done and so perfectionism must be a good thing, right?

Well, no… that’s what they want you to believe, but it isn't rooted in reality. In fact, being a perfectionist is a bad thing.

There’s a very persistent and dangerous misunderstanding about what perfectionism is and this misunderstanding is perpetuated in the media and in popular culture.

I bought into this myth for a long time. Until I started to do the research, read #allthebooks, and dig deep into my own story of how my perfectionism started and how it shows up in my life.

Here’s what I’ve come up with about what perfectionism REALLY is and why I believe that perfectionism is a coping mechanism.

From Perfectionist to Gratefulist: my story of overcoming perfectionism

From Perfectionist to Gratefulist: my story of overcoming perfectionism

We all have a story to tell. What’s your story about dealing with the pressure to be perfect and the struggle of perfectionism?

Today, I’ll be sharing my journey from being a Perfectionist (that’s right, with a capital P) to being the Gratefulist.

I used to be a proud perfectionist. It defined me. I always thought my perfectionism was what set me apart and made me successful. But then, in the middle of a major life transition, I had a reckoning.

This is my story of overcoming perfectionism and the lessons I learned along the way.

Do you feel like you do, have, and are enough?

Do you feel like you do, have, and are enough?

Do you struggle with the concept of ‘enough’?

As perfectionists, it is a difficult concept for us. We deal with feeling like what we do is never perfect. No matter how much of ourselves we put into our work, it’s never enough.

And since perfection is a myth, a fictional goal we’ll never reach, it means WE are never enough.

We feel like we have to fight, with everything we have sometimes, to just be ourselves. To really feel valuable and ‘enough’ just as we are.

In a world where we constantly feel…

not pretty enough

not thin enough

not witty enough

not extroverted enough

not successful enough

not articulate enough

not enough degrees

not enough money

NOT PERFECT ENOUGH

... so we wear these masks. Molding and contorting who we are. Trying to please everyone.

And we end up looking around thinking, ‘Is this really all there is?’

Listen to me, love.

You are good enough just the way you are. What you have to offer is enough. You are enough.

This first edition of #perfectionistproblems the show was MADE for you. Let’s get to it.