Perfect picks - a monthly roundup of useful resources for recovering perfectionists

Perfect picks - a monthly roundup of useful resources for recovering perfectionists

Welcome to this month’s edition of Perfect Picks, my friend! Each month, I’ll share a roundup of useful resources I’ve come across on the interwebs.

Think:

  • practical tips, thought-provoking blog posts, and #allthethings I've been loving lately...

  • … about perfectionism and other topics many perfectionists struggle with


Plus, some fun and entertainment too!

Let’s get to it.

4 sure-fire ways to instantly snap out of perfectionism

4 sure-fire ways to instantly snap out of perfectionism

What do you do when you’re stuck in a moment of perfectionism?

We all have these moments where we find ourselves double or triple spell-checking the most basic email, obsessively going over someone else’s work to make sure every little detail is just right, or snapping at our significant other for wearing a shirt that’s just plain WRONG (aka not picture perfect).

Those simple, everyday moments where everything was going alright and then suddenly, BOOM!, we’re caught up in perfectionism.

For most of us, perfectionism has been a long-time companion. A shadow that’s been following us for years. And so, overcoming the coping mechanism that is perfectionism is going to be a long-term effort.

But that doesn’t mean there isn’t anything you can do, in the moment, when you’re stuck in perfectionism to help you snap out of it.

I’ve come up with 4 sure-fire ways to instantly snap you out of perfectionism. Let's dive in!

15 inspiring blog posts about overcoming perfectionism I’m loving right now

15 inspiring blog posts about overcoming perfectionism I’m loving right now

Hi friends! Last week, I shared a round up of 5 of the The Gratefulist’s most popular blog posts, chock-full of tips to help you let go of perfectionism.

Today, I want to pay it forward. Over here at The Gratefulist, we believe in the power of community. Slaying the perfectionism dragon can be a lonely job, but you don’t have to go at it alone.

There’s an entire community out there, doing the.bomb.dot.com work in helping recovering perfectionists deal with their perfectionism, that I’m excited to support.

So, without further adieu, here are 15 blog posts about perfectionism that I’m loving right now.

Let’s do this.

What is perfectionism and why is perfectionism a coping mechanism?

What is perfectionism and why is perfectionism a coping mechanism?

Do you believe our culture’s version of what being a perfectionist looks like?

Here’s why I ask:

Perfectionism is nothing like how it’s portrayed in our culture and on tv. I mean, NOTHING.

The Monica Geller’s (remember Friends?) and April Kepner’s (Grey’s Anatomy, anyone?) of the television world are somewhat annoying and anal-retentive, but they get the job done and so perfectionism must be a good thing, right?

Well, no… that’s what they want you to believe, but it isn't rooted in reality. In fact, being a perfectionist is a bad thing.

There’s a very persistent and dangerous misunderstanding about what perfectionism is and this misunderstanding is perpetuated in the media and in popular culture.

I bought into this myth for a long time. Until I started to do the research, read #allthebooks, and dig deep into my own story of how my perfectionism started and how it shows up in my life.

Here’s what I’ve come up with about what perfectionism REALLY is and why I believe that perfectionism is a coping mechanism.

7 things I've learned from helping women overcome their perfectionism

7 things I've learned from helping women overcome their perfectionism

What is holding you back from doing the work to overcome your perfectionism?

Ever since launching my 1-on-1 coaching & mentoring program at the beginning of this year, I’ve been so lucky to have worked with dozens of women in helping them go from stressed-out perfectionist to recovering perfectionist.

Having a backstage pass to so many transformations in my clients’ personal lives (and working lives), has taught me a thing or two about raising your hand and saying yes to doing the scary thing.

Mindset blocks, hesitations, not feeling good enough or like you don’t have what it takes, wanting to backtrack… I’ve seen it all. And guess what? Everybody feels this way.

Feeling this way is not a sign to quit or to not invest in yourself. In fact, feeling this way is how you KNOW you’ve taken the right step. Because saying hell-to-the-no to your perfectionism is supposed to scare the hell out of you.

You’ve been carrying around your perfectionism for years. It’s been your trusted companion, your go-to survival mechanism, the devil you know. If overcoming perfectionism was easy, you’d done so already.

But trust me, you’ve got what it takes. You can do this. Find strength in the women who’ve gone through the process before you. If they can do it, so can you.

So, without further adieu, here’s what I've learned from helping my clients (brave women just like you and me!) overcome their perfectionism.