Why I'm calling BS on work-life balance

Why I'm calling BS on work-life balance

I'm calling it.

That’s right. I'm calling BS on work-life balance.

Yes, you read that right. I’m taking a firm position against work-life balance. Or better said, against the type of “balance” that’s talked about so much in magazines and on television.

Think about it…

How many tv shows have you watched where they talk about how it’s possible for women to “have it all” and then they run a commercial shaming us for not being the perfect mom or the perfect girlfriend in order to sell a product?

When flipping through your favorite magazine, how many articles have you come across detailing how difficult it is for women to combine our careers, running a household, taking care of children or parents, having a social life, living healthy and working out, and having a little spare time for ourselves?

When browsing through the nonfiction section of Barnes & Nobles, how many books have you come across that have something to say about “finding your balance”?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve lost count. And I’m getting so, so tired of it.

Here’s why…

Our 5 most popular posts chock-full of procrastination-busting productivity tips

Our 5 most popular posts chock-full of procrastination-busting productivity tips

As of today, there are over 85 posts in The Gratefulist’s archives. Uhm... whoa!

As much as I’ve worked on making this website easy to navigate and to find old posts, it still means that there are a bazillion (y’know, more or less) posts that no one ever sees.

To help, I compiled a super specific list of 5 of the most popular posts I’ve ever written about beating procrastination and upping your productivity. Woop woop!

I so hope they’re helpful for you and that there are posts in here that you’ve never seen before.

I know these posts are a little addictive, so don't go too far down the rabbit hole! ;)

Introducing: Overcome Your Perfectionism, Unleash Your Potential

Introducing: Overcome Your Perfectionism, Unleash Your Potential


I’m guessing your story of dealing with perfectionism throughout the years looks something like this…

1. You were that typical overachieving kid all the way through school. You wore your perfectionism as a badge of honor.

2. Your first work experience is a wake-up call, because the care for detail that you put in your work isn't appreciated and it takes you twice as long to complete a project compared to your co-workers.

3. You’re stressed and overwhelmed all the time and take it out on your family or roommates. It feels like everything is falling apart.

4. You realize that your perfectionism isn’t really helping you anymore and that it’s actually standing in your way.

5. But, at the same time, you feel scared and anxious about having to give up your perfectionism, because you think it means having to give up #allthethings that make you stand out.

6. You feel stuck and don’t know how to move forward.

Girl, I’ve soooo been there. A few years ago, I was exactly where you are now.

An inside look at my goals for this year: new resources for recovering perfectionists

An inside look at my goals for this year: new resources for recovering perfectionists

This isn’t a normal The Gratefulist blog post.

In a normal blog post, I write about topics related to overcoming perfectionism after I’ve already had time to experiment with new strategies, process my feelings and experiences, and figure out what works.

But after reading through your replies to my recent reader survey, I noticed that you want to see things as they’re happening. You requested more of a behind-the-scenes look.

Well, you perfectionism-busting rockstar you…

… your wish is my command. :)

I have to admit, though, that this is a little out of my comfort zone.

Because, as a perfectionist, sharing my goals is really difficult. If something doesn’t work out the way I hope it will (AKA if it isn’t perfect), my “failure” will be public knowledge. All of you will know about it.

But that’s just the nature of dealing with perfectionism, isn’t it? Trial and error. Falling down once and getting up twice. I share about my own perfectionist tendencies and experiences, so that hopefully you can learn from it.

So, here’s the inside scoop about what I’m focusing on this year, along with why and how I plan to accomplish it.

Why grateful people are happy people

Why grateful people are happy people

Danger! Danger!

With Thanksgiving behind us and after finishing up a 30-day gratitude challenge in my Facebook community, it’s all too easy to take a break from practicing gratitude.

But hold on, babycakes! You’ve gotten so far… why give up now?

To help you keep up with your new gratitude habit and give you a boost of motivation to stick with it, I'm walking you through why grateful people are happy people over on the Embracing the Unexpected blog.

In this guest post I’m sharing advice and action steps for starting and keeping up with a life-changing, sustainable gratitude practice.

Here's a sneak peek of the action tips I'm covering:

  1. Different ways to practice gratitude: choose one that works for you
  2. Stop taking things for granted
  3. Go deeper